Do you ever look in the mirror, and wonder how the hell did it come to this? You recognize the face and body; that’s all fine. But the outfit you’ve got on — it’s not you.

Usually it’s not intentional. It just happens. Your style starts to slip through the cracks, and your outfit planning goes on autopilot. Whether it’s a busy schedule, life transition, lack of inspiration, or just plain laziness, when your style veers away from who you are, you’re not making your best expression.

Although it may seem like a big shopping spree is the answer, it’s not the only fix! The real solution is to reconnect with who you are, and what you love. This will bring you back to yourself in every possible way (style included).

To get reacquainted with the true you, I suggest meditation. Sitting for 10 or 20 minutes will definitely clue you into what’s happening within. And while meditation is proven to lead to better health overall, it’s the clarity of mind that enables you to become your best expression. When you allow your brain to rest, and create space around your thoughts, you open yourself up to the possibility of what can be.

Then it’s time for inspiration!

If you live in an area where there’s good people watching, head there. Or log into your social feeds to check out who’s got their A game going in the style department. Simply note what you love about their look. Was it the way they wore a cropped biker jacket with high waisted, wide-leg trousers? Maybe you love how one woman mixed her Victorian ruffle blouse with a tutu and high tops.

Let’s be clear – you won’t copy these outfits. But instead, draw inspiration from them. You could create a Pinterest board, and make a mental note of all that resonates with you. It could be something like, I love creating a dynamic silhouette by playing with volume in my clothing. Or I love mixing and matching different eras or elements in fabrics, textures and prints. This is the kind of inspiration you are looking for — things that will become the foundation for your outfit planning.

Next go through your closet and pull out everything you love. It could be that sparkly rose printed kimono that you forgot about. Or maybe you knew it was there, but could never figure out how to wear it. Now is the time to bring these pieces back into rotation. Take in the items, and imagine what they need. Use your vision to create the looks. Then work your way through your closet to see what you have that matches your vision. If you don’t find anything that you already own, you may need to start a shopping list.

It’s inevitable that our styles shift and change with life. So if you no longer own anything that looks like you, figure out who you are, what you love and then dress for that woman.

Have you ever felt like your style got away from who you really are? I’d love to know! Please share in the comments below.


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